Wednesday, 6 April 2016

Wisdom teeth

A week later & I still feel traumatised. And no I don't think that is too strong a word for having had four difficult wisdom teeth removed. The aching was annoying but nothing I haven't had to put up with before. It's everything else that is doing my head in. They nicked something that connects to my nose while in there so I can blow it until mid next week so as to avoid damage. I couldn't use a straw in the first week (again re causing damage) which would have made drinking so much easier in those first few days. I hate laying on my back but I am not yet game to put the pressure from my heavy headed sleeping on my cheeks plus I toss & turn when not in a forced position. Brushing my teeth is hard & I hate having food stuck in my teeth so I'm still nibbling everything with my front teeth. Eating has never been my strong point & I'm the person who has rarely eaten on my left side in over 20 years as it's the last side I lost a tooth from & I could never bring myself to chew with the gum all tender & now I'm being told to just eat normally, it's fine. I don't think people understand just now not fine it is to try & eat normally when I've had my gums cut into, my lower lip is still partially numb & all my teeth feel like they have been rearranged. It feels like I'm gumming my food & the closest I've come is chips. It's not fine. It's far from fine & I honestly don't know how long it will be before I'm brave enough to try eating with my molars again. I just need my mouth to feel normal...

Sunday, 14 June 2015

General PSA

For those who haven't noticed; I do NOT think like you! Stop painting me with your brush & assuming that my motivations are the same as yours because you will be wrong every single damn time. I am not in the slightest bit interested in competing with the world, I do not think I'm better than you & I do not post from a place of self interest. I want what is best for everyone, because we are all human & all have to share this planet. The fact that so many people get so defensive over the idea that they consider things from a neutral perspective instead of a personal one says way more about you than it does me.

Like everyone else I have my own beliefs, opinions, likes & dislikes but my solution isn't to all be me it's to let everyone be themselves. I don't have to believe in something for it to be true to someone else. I don't have to partake in something for those around me to partake in it. I don't have to like something just because you do. And vise versa. Your actions outside of yourself have consequences. I'm not asking you to do anything more than consider them before acting. Your words can't be taken back & they do leave scars on others even if you can't see them. Luckily I don't care what you think of me so your words don't hurt me, but your actions do offend me when you think you have a right to treat people like garbage.

Also by the time I give my opinion on such things I've already considered numerous different points of view & have choosen the one that I feel is beneficial to many. Just because most people think about themselves first doesn't make that my motivation.

News flash we are all humans & the Earth revolves around the sun. Grow up & start being part of the whole instead of thinking everything is about just you. Just because something doesn't directly affect you doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

The personal attacks on my character need to stop. I am none of the things people keep accusing me of. All I want is a better place for all. I am not the enemy so quit treating me like one. I'm not the world's punching bag for those not open to a point of view that is collective rather than singular. If you can't have a civil, intelligent conversation without personal attacks you are not welcome on my posts. If I wasn't the person I am just consider that you could have been responsible for depression or suicide by now. Be glad I don't take thinks personally but rather socially.

I am not after pity I'm after the same respect that you yourself expect.

Wednesday, 31 December 2014

New Year Revelation

Let's make this the year terrible things do not happen before people understand they are important. The year when people care because it is the right thing to do: not a fad or for personal gain. The year when we come together as humans to embrace not only our oneness but the differences that make us unique and special. If you only care when there is a headline or a celebrity endorsement you are part of the problem. Instead make every day a day for equality, acceptance & caring. Make a difference! Make your actions count, because words can only go so far. Make this the year that we stand up to governments, bigots and extremists. It’s time to say enough is enough, because if we don't nobody else will. Our rights to choose and be safe are fundamental; it’s time to stop putting personal beliefs and outdated documents ahead of society. Stand up, be a voice of change. Stop being passive and reactive and start being proactive in making this world a better place for all. Raise the next generation to take care of this planet and all that live here. Complacency is no longer an option! Compassion, understanding, acceptance, selflessness and respect are key to a brighter future. Be part of the change; don’t sit back and watch life happen only to complain about it later.  

Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Everyday Feminism

Just because the surface is clear doesn't mean the underlying current is. Yes it is great for people to speak up for women’s rights and debunk the stigma surrounding the terms feminism and feminist. But to only take part in or notice of the fight when a celebrity has given a speech and go back to doing nothing when the hype dies down is an affront to women everywhere.

It is insulting to act as though women's rights only matter when endorsed by a celebrity. The fact that some people are only willing to get behind a cause because it's attached to a celebrity and for as long as it is prominent in the media is sad. Women's right to equality is worth more than a celebrity endorsement; our lives are not marketable commodities. Our rights to equality and to be taken seriously are not on par with shampoo, cat food and coffee. 

Do you have any idea how heartbreaking it is to tell people how they are hurting you, themselves or others and be dismissed only to see those same people take notice when someone they don't even know personally tells them the exact same thing. How depressing it is that your opinion is seemingly worth less to those who care about you than that of a stranger. 

If people need celebrity endorsement to understand or share the importance of human rights then this planet is seriously more screwed up than most realise. People should know that equality and in this case specifically feminism are important because they are female or know females. It should not only be important for as long as the hype of a celebrity's speech is in the media. It should not only be important simply because of fame period. It is more than acceptable to speak out without the need of someone holding your hand. If you are only sharing because 'OMG it's XXX' you are missing the point of this important issue. This is an issue that needs to be addressed and noticed every single day because we live in the 21st century and it's long overdue that women are treated equal to men. The general public may not have fame but by ignoring the message because it doesn't come from someone famous is insulting to everyone trying to make this world a better place. Our voices are just as important. Our struggles just as significant. This needs to be important every day because if only celebrity's comments are treated as important than it diminishes the overall importance of the cause. Take a stand not because a celebrity told you to but because it is the right thing to do. Be part of the solution every day, not just when it’s made trendy to do so. 

And if you think it is easy being a feminist out of the limelight think again. I may not have experienced anything as serious as death or rape threats but I deal with harassment and rudeness on a regular basis for voicing my beliefs and standing up for my rights.

·       I have been accused of soap boxing
·       I have been told I take things too seriously and read too much into everything
·       I have been told I'm a man hater
·       It's been assumed I must be gay
·       I have been told too many times: ‘that’s just how it is’, ‘it was just a joke’, ‘you’re only one person’, ‘why don’t you just stop’

Human rights are something I have been passionate about since I was three. Respect, equality & self-worth are infinitely important to me. And yet people still attack me over my beliefs and praise celebrities for saying the exact same thing. How does that even make sense! To mock, hate or ignore feminism is to perpetuate the problem. The fact that equality and feminism still offends people or is something to be complacent about is an insult to females everywhere. 

Quit being a sheep, open your eyes, dig deeper, see beyond the surface and fight for equality because it is the humane thing to do. Take equality seriously, it's not a fad or something to forget about when the media buzz wears off. Women you are worth it. Men you have women in your lives. Stand up for them, stand with them and speak out! 

Thursday, 14 August 2014

Depression and suicide

We live in a world where negativity is rife and the apparent need for competition in some is like the need for air. But life is not a competition it’s about finding *your* happiness, not trying to duplicate someone else’s. There is so much negativity and neediness online these days that it’s often hard to tell whether someone is genuinely suffering or simply seeking attention. How often must someone repeat the same positive messages to you before you believe them? Why would a person choose to talk to you regularly or in some cases every day if they didn’t like you? Why is it so hard to accept a compliment and believe the good in yourself instead of constantly believing the bullies of the world and hating yourself instead?

Depression is a silent illness fought by so many and yet when something like suicide rears its head do people ban together to help combat this often silent killer… No, they take it as an opportunity to once again assert the need for competition and fight over the morality of suicide, a competition nobody is ever going to win because the very concept of taking one’s life is such a personal one. So instead of making this about morals or personal beliefs, which nobody is ever going to agree on, why don’t people take this as yet another opportunity to spread awareness of mental illness? Tweet the number to the suicide hotline in your country along with any organisations that help those with depression. Offer to listen to those who want to talk. Let people know they are not alone. Make trending count for something and hashtag suicide or depression in these tweets.

Instead of choosing to divide society take this as an opportunity to work together and collectively get behind a cause that many share. Help reduce the stigmatism that still surrounds mental illness and just maybe more people will admit they have a problem, seek help and not wind up committing suicide. Don’t waste another opportunity to make this a priority by bickering and attacking each other’s opinions.

Help in Australia:

Lifeline (24 hour support line): 13 11 14

Beyond Blue – depression and anxiety support

Tuesday, 5 August 2014

Greedy Hollywood Needy Hollywood

In light of the cast of The Big Bang Theory demanding more money I feel this is an important issue to voice given they aren't the first and they won’t be the last.

This kind of mentality in Hollywood is appalling. Nobody needs the amount of money those in Hollywood receive in a lifetime let along a year or per movie, especially when there are so many people struggling or going without. The Big Bang cast is currently reportedly on $350,000 an episode, which based on say 22 episodes a season is $7,700,000 a year; how is that not more than enough!

"According to the Bureau of Labour Statistics, the median wage for workers in the United States in December 2013 was $786 per week or $48,872 a year for a 40 hour work week."

So compared to their fellow US employees they are already earning over $300,000 more an episode than the average American does in a year. Do they not understand that people are struggling, that the minimum wage in the US is garbage? And sure they work long hours but so do doctors, nurses, cops, etc. Is there no compassion for the average person; the very roles that actors often take on to earn the exuberant amounts that they do? Shouldn't acting be about a love of the art, about expressing and sharing that love with the world, not egos and greed...

Consider if instead of increasing cast wages part of that money was redirected to the writers and crew (without them there wouldn't be a show), part was put back into the show and the balance was given to charity. Just imagine how much the world would change for the better if shows started donating to charities. They could even do so based on the show's theme:
  • ·         Medical shows to medical research;
  • ·         Cop shows to law enforcement;
  • ·         Law shows to help people who can’t afford representation;
  • ·         Science based shows to the advancement of science;
  • ·         School shows to education and;
  • ·         Family shows to helping those in need.

And yes, we as viewers help compound this issue by watching the shows and buying the merchandise, but that doesn't make it right. I for one feel the behind the scenes is as important to a show/movie as the finished product I am watching. This mentality gives me a bitter taste about shows I have otherwise enjoyed, because the integrity and compassion of those involved is as important to me as the story being told. It is why more than ever I am drawn to the world of indie where story is more important than money and ego.

Sunday, 15 June 2014

Dear parents

I may not be a parent but I am someone's child and I don't understand why parents think they or their kids are failing when they don't live up to certain expectations. You know what they are doing; being themselves! And they certainly don't have to live up to outsiders' expectations; every child learns and develops at their own rate. They are not necessarily going to like the same food as you or even a big range of food, especially early on. Taste and texture can be huge obstacles to overcome; try asking your child what they don't like about something. They are not necessary going to like anything just because you do. Their behaviour isn't naughty simply because it doesn't meet expectations of how someone should behave. Maybe they have a neurological condition that means they see the world differently, (Asperger’s Syndrome, Autism, ADHD) which a doctor could help identify. But regardless of anything else that may be going on they are simply being their unique, individual selves; something that should be encouraged. There is a difference between following the rules and a developing personality, please don't mistake the two to the detriment of your child's ability to be themselves. You need to teach them to think, not what to think. Just because they aren't a clone of you doesn't automatically make them fussy, naughty, stubborn or any of the other negative labels people place on children. What we have come to call stubborn is really someone wanting to do things the way they feel comfortable doing them. That is not automatically wrong, it's just different. You may not always understand their way of thinking or doing things, but they are not always going to understand yours either, it’s about compromise and seeing things from everyone’s point of view. Learn to read your child and understand their needs, encourage their way of learning, doing, being instead of thinking you or they are a failure, because as parents you are the people who will instil them with confidence, self-love and the ability to be a functioning individual who can think for themselves. Don't take that away from them by expecting them to be what you want to see or think they should be. If they can't trust you to accept them for who they are, who can they trust? It may not be easy, but it's not meant to be. If it were meant to be easy we wouldn't be raising individuals but clones. You have created a brand new person and you have to learn who they are right along with them. All you can do is give them boundaries, teach them actions have consequences and love, provide and be there for them; everything else is all them, you can't change who they are and why would you want to…